If I have set personal values ​​for myself, do I need to envy someone whose values are far from mine?

Can I be as happy as S? (S is the initials of an imaginary figure).

Such questions often come to my mind.

She has everything a woman could dream of, a rich husband, a beautiful face and style, and luxurious goods (bags, cars, houses, etc.). Recently, she was promoted to a higher position in her office.

Everything seems perfect to her. At a young age, she has achieved all girl’s dreams. There is only one thing that is mediocre about her: her work skills. However, she was lucky to get a promotion.

Should I be envious? Or should I be angry at her luck? While my career is stagnant, her career is skyrocketing.

I feel that the working world is unfair.

But think again and take a deep breath. Who am I angry at?

I don’t think there is a good reason to hate her. She has been working on the way she believes to achieve her goals. Regarding the promotion she got, there may have been some behind-the-scenes dealings, or there may have been none. Maybe there was a factor that caused her to be promoted.

S certainly has her own life principles and values ​​that she developed to find her own version of happiness. So do I. Every human being has their own values ​​about the meaning of happiness. If I get angry with her, does that mean that S and I are competing on the same path to achieve happiness?

In fact, nothing is the same between S and I. Our life values ​​are not the same.

If I have set personal values ​​for myself, do I need to envy someone whose values are far from mine?

Nope. Everyone must be consistent with the values ​​they adhere to. Never mix up with the values ​​of others. You will get angry and disappointed easily.

In seeking happiness, you are spurring yourself on, not racing against other people’s dreams.

The story above is just my reflection on how to respond and behave well according to the values ​​that I have set for myself. I am still learning to build a commitment to myself and not be envious of the happiness of others.

What about you? Do you often feel that the world is so unfair and jealous of others?