Marriage is a journey that teaches me many lessons and inspires me to keep growing, I entered this stage of life at 24 as a woman who was innocent and had limited experience with men.

My husband was the first man in my adult life. I only knew the character of a man like my father who was patient, generous, and loving to his children.

I had never taken a marriage course, and at that time, it didn’t seem necessary. I viewed marriage as just a part of life—what was there to study? Hahaha… how naive I was, right?

I was optimistic, thinking my life would be perfect with no fights and no sadness. But reality slapped me.

My man was not as I imagined. My husband has a different nature from my father. That became a source of disappointment for me. I felt like I was being cheated on raw.

Indeed, we never talked seriously about how to manage a marriage, how to manage finances, and the children who would be born. My husband imitated his father’s figure, while I considered my father as my ideal man. It was a heavy blow that shook the household for years.

I am not alone. Many married women around me also complained about the pressures of the differences in views in managing the household between husband and wife. In my time, divorce was a shameful thing. We had to maintain our household even though there were many disputes.

Reflecting on my life, I am grateful to be able to survive in marriage.

Oh..but you suffer, do you?

Maybe that’s someone else’s comment who doesn’t know the journey my husband and I went through until we reached 30 years of marriage.

Yes, there were times when I suffered from accepting my husband’s character. But he also experienced the same thing. Who knows whose burden of suffering was the heaviest. Only God knows.

Marriage is not scary.

We received a valuable gift from our patience in nurturing our marriage. Our two children have grown up in a normal and happy family environment.

I also had a chance to school and develop professional work. I can build myself without the shadow of my husband. Marriage has many sides, the fun and the not, the boring and the exciting. On the whole, more positives than bad ones.

Thank you my friend for reading my point of view.

Wish you all the best.