I have always felt privileged by my parents. When I studied independently in my room, they freed me from housework. My mother bought me pretty good clothes and jewelry even though she had to save money. I am their pride because of my outstanding educational achievements that could not given by their other children.

The problem arose later when I was married. I did not work while my parents had difficulty supporting my younger siblings. I wanted to help but had no money. The money I managed belonged to my husband and me. Our money could not be given to my parent without my husband’s consent. I was too shy to ask, either.

I then started to think about working and having my own income. My decision was firm. I worked and seriously developed a career while continuing my higher education. But the obstacles were not easy. I had two little children and a household to take care of.

However, I am now very grateful for the decision I’ve made. I could help my parent, pamper them in the last days of their lives, and help my younger siblings and relatives who are less fortunate. I can finance personal projects or enjoy my hobbies without draining my husband’s money. I feel the blessing.

The freedom I get from having my own money is very calming. I share this learning with every girl who wants to hear my experience. When I meet my nieces, I advise them to build themselves and get a good job.

“Never depend on your husband’s money, my darlings!”