Many children, when asked what they want to be when they grow up, answer loudly that they want to be president. Then their parents and the people who hear the answer smile happily. Oh, my child has good ideals, they mutter to themselves.

As they grow up, I’m sure those ideals change a lot. Becoming president is challenging, especially in a large country with hundreds of millions of people and a complex political system. A president must have a clear development concept. Otherwise, he will be a failed leader. The chances of winning are also tiny.

As an adult, I desire financial independence and the ability to make my own decisions. I am willing to compromise with my parents, siblings, or husband, but the final decision must ultimately satisfy me.

In such conditions, am I a leader or a follower? Maybe I’m a leader. I can communicate my vision about one interest, and others consider it. A leader is not always the winner in a debate or decision-making. In fact, his ability to listen to other people’s opinions, accommodate them for the common good, be willing to do checks and balances, and be humble will be his strengths.

I am still far from that skill. I am not too ambitious, either. I think the most important thing is to be able to lead yourself and your family. If other people are affected, that’s a bonus.