I would choose to be myself by highlighting all my best qualities. Even if it were just for one day, it would be wonderful to experience being a good person and to see how the people around me respond to this new version of myself.
How would my siblings respond? Would they respect me more and listen to my advice?
How would my colleagues at work react to my change in attitude and perspective on the problems we face together?
I also want to explore my feelings. Would my soul be more peaceful, and I could see this world from a beautiful side?
Becoming the best version of myself, even for one day, would answer the question that has been bothering me all this time: if I had the best qualities, would my luck skyrocket?
I want to write a book of life reflections based on my journey as a woman, wife, mother of two, and office worker. I have learned many lessons from my life. Sharing the story with family members or others would be interesting.
The better way is through writing. It can reach many people. Yes… I want to write a book that is good in terms of content. The design and illustrations I make myself as well.
Regarding the content of the writing, many interesting issues I can write about. How to make the layout and illustrations of the book? That is the problem. I don’t understand at all. However, there is an application for that.
Well, I will learn more about this. Maybe by subscribing to the Canva, and I follow the steps. Or by taking a short course.
Pray that I can realize my DIY book… thank you, my friends.
Don’t expect to find true friends at work; they usually don’t exist. Instead, you may encounter two-faced individuals who act like enemies.
Who wants to be a scapegoat? All the blame is placed on him, even though he has worked well, but is not considered.
I certainly don’t want to.
Someone who is in the position of a scapegoat must have experienced tough and stressful days. No matter how loud he shouts, the people around him do not respond positively.
In the workplace, unhealthy competition often occurs. Coworkers may undermine one another due to ambitious motives or claim credit for others’ work as their own success, which is unfortunately common.
Don’t expect to find true friends at work; they usually don’t exist. Instead, you may encounter two-faced individuals who act like enemies.
Maybe that expression is too harsh, but it is to remind you that office friendships are fake. Don’t bring friendship in the office into your personal space. It can reveal your weaknesses in front of people whose sincerity has not been tested.
In an unfair situation, there are several steps to deal with it.
Stay calm and professional.
Gather evidence to support your argument.
Communicate your concerns to your boss or coworkers.
Seek support from coworkers or mentors who can help you deal with the situation.
If circumstances worsen, you may file a formal complaint or seek assistance from a third party.
In addition, you need to increase your authority so that you are not always the victim or scapegoat.
How? Strengthen your integrity as someone honest, transparent, and consistent. People with this character will naturally attract followers who can become your defenders.
Communicate any issues by clearly presenting your accomplishment and supporting evidence, as outlined in your job description. Firmly assert that you should not be held responsible for tasks outside your duties. Remember, you are not expected to handle everything perfectly or possess supernatural abilities.
Face conflict calmly and courageously. This will build itself if you have done the task correctly according to the direction of your superior and coordinated with colleagues. Keep learning to improve the right way to communicate and make past mistakes as a medium for self-improvement.
I want to live a peaceful life without any more challenges in the future. Challenges arise when humans consider it as something that must be conquered.
So, I will try not to consider anything as a challenge but something I must harmonize with life.
If I have something I want to achieve, I refer to it as a goal. I do not pressure myself to accomplish it 100%. Achieving even part of it is already an extraordinary blessing.
Character formation begins in childhood, but from my experience, the strongest character formation occurs in adolescence.
As a teenager, I was quite introverted but not rebellious. I shifted from one who spent lots of time playing to a teenager who played less and focused more on my studies. While this shift was beneficial academically, it made me less skilled at building friendships and social connections.
I was easily offended, and that carried over into adulthood. Many of my friendships ended in cold wars. Friends ignored me, only came when they needed help with their lessons, but did not include me in their circles.
Now that I think about it, that attitude was detrimental to me.
Why couldn’t I have been more flexible?
I shouldn’t have been so extreme, even though they acted that way. After all, not all aspects of their personalities are bad. I could still find ways to benefit from them, such as enjoying their swimming pool, tasting their cakes, or having them give me a ride home. I realize now that I had very little playfulness in me, which made me vulnerable and easily hurt.
That feeling is still there today but has diminished significantly.
If I could go back in time, in addition to studying hard and developing my interests, I would also develop my ability to build friendships and networks. I would control my inhibiting emotional traits.
If you are bored because of the atmosphere in one place, it must be easy to go out and find a new atmosphere. Boredom will come quickly, especially at an older age, when the activity is the same. Some experts suggest that we should not do the same activity every day. Do something new. Walking around the house, looking at flowers and the green grass, or saying hello to people you pass on the street can eliminate boredom.
What if the person making you feel bored is someone close to you, like a family member or a friend? It can be challenging to deal with that, right? For instance, a senior family member or a close friend who constantly talks about the same topic. They frequently complain or tend to brag about their achievements. It can be tedious.
On my list, the activity that makes me the most bored and trapped is engaging in conversations like this. I have to restrain myself from ending the conversation due to ethical considerations to protect the feelings of my older family member.
Yet, I must be prepared. I am getting older, and I may tend to change. I won’t let myself be boring, and my grandson says, “Grandma, why are you so talkative?”
It is not an easy decision for one who enters the 40s or 50s. For those who have worked for decades in one place, changing jobs becomes more dilemmatic. Not only salary, work atmosphere, distance from home, acceptance of spouse/children, and so on must also be considered carefully.
Some reasons why someone finally considers changing jobs:
Lack of challenges that cause someone to feel bored and unmotivated.
Lack of opportunities for self-development.
Unsatisfactory salary
Uncomfortable work environment
Changes in life priorities.
Lack of balance between work and personal life
Salary is not the number one factor for those who have accumulated wealth from their previous jobs. They may switch careers to follow their passion or a more relaxed lifestyle. Many have left their jobs to pursue writing, start businesses, or become homemakers.
How do their spouses and children respond? Is it important to consider? Yes, I think. They are the first parties who will feel the impact of the decision. For example, if income decreases, the family must adapt, and you need to discuss the consequences with them.
If your spouse and children are fortunate to be financially independent, at least you tell them that the decision is a need for your soul so that they will support you and not ignore you if unpleasant things happen.
Before deciding to change jobs, someone should consider several things, such as:
Are the reasons for changing jobs strong enough?
Is there a clear career plan?
Do you have enough skills and experience to get the desired job?
By considering these things, someone will be more confident in pursuing their new career.
My life has been too serious lately, so the people who approach me are the same type. I want to refresh my mind. I really want to be friends with people who are funny but have good moral values and are committed to maintaining them.
My friends, whom I love to be around, should not be flirtatious. I appreciate those who believe in religious values, kindness, and sincerity and who like to share life experiences in a light-hearted way, along with their funny character.
Are they male or female friends? I prefer female friends, just to be safe. My husband won’t be jealous, hahaha. But it seems rare because there are many women like me. Seriously.
Choosing friends is not a simple matter. That relates to your soul. I often include this topic in my prayers. That God will give me a good and pleasant garden. Good friends are a blessing, you know?
Comfortable, low-heeled, and neutral-colored genuine leather shoes are my go-to choice for various office and outdoor activities. I have long believed that good shoes are valued not for their style but for their comfort.
If we meet, you will see a middle-aged woman wearing plain shoes that might seem old-fashioned. Many other women prefer trendy shoes and high heels. I choose simplicity.
Since I was very young, I have been unable to wear high heels. The maximum heel I can tolerate is only 3 cm. My calves will hurt all day if I force myself.
I feel confident and no longer feel inferior in low-heeled shoes or sandals. That’s what works best for me. I no longer need to pursue the desire to look sexy or taller.
The reality is that my body is indeed petite, you know. No need to feel ashamed.
Sorry, but the best gift I ever received was a gift I gave to myself. It’s not that I don’t appreciate the gifts other people give me, but over time, they give me things I don’t need.
They may give me expensive and niche gifts, something from abroad or a faraway place, but they’re not things I need. I’m only happy for a moment, then I put them away somewhere until I forget.
I appreciate things that I can use every day. Things that look sophisticated or too stylish but can’t be used for everyday purposes end up in a corner of my house.
I like these types of gifts:
Mukena or clothes for prayer
Cosmetics, especially facial serum and lipstick
Biscuits, crackers, dark chocolate, or foods that are low in sugar and carbohydrates
Flowers, especially types I don’t have or rare plants.
Unwanted gifts can lead to unexpected conflicts. You must address this issue honestly and thoughtfully, so don’t overlook its importance!
Once, my husband gave me a pair of high heels. The model was elegant. But I never wear high heels. It was difficult to explain that his gift didn’t suit me.
If I didn’t wear the shoes, my husband would question me. However, if I forced myself to wear them, they would hurt my feet. Eventually, I asked his permission to sell the shoes to my friends and use the money to buy a new pair.
Although disappointed, he agreed. It was a moderate way to solve this problem.
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