Sibling relationships are complicated. Some people feel alienated from their siblings, even escalating tension and resentment. Deep down, there is a feeling of longing and sadness.

How beautiful this world would be if I had sibling with whom I could share my life stories, who could mutually understand and strengthen.

According to Islamic values, brotherhood must be kept well. Islamic scholars agree that giving alms to relatives is more important than giving alms to others. It means your sibling is the first to be helped and supported before anyone else.

However, this is not always easy. Some factors, including past conflicts, awkward relationships, or high self-regard, hinder the desire to reconcile. In such a situation, what should be done? Here are some tips.

• Heal past wounds. If this is the root of the problem that is driving you and your sibling apart, you must heal it first by forgiving, being patient, or trying to accept the past and forget it.
• Set boundaries between siblings. It is essential to respect each other’s personal space.
• Spend more time together. Having dinner or working out together may strengthen your relationship. Respect each other’s uniqueness and avoid conversations that lead to accusations or blame.
• Celebrate each other’s accomplishments and make it a tradition to renew your relationship. Praising each other can reduce the competition that may have existed.
• Help each other overcome difficulties. Togetherness in facing problems can strengthen emotional bonds between siblings.

There are many other tips that you can develop on your own. Based on my experience, mental maturity is a basic to improve sibling relationships.